Been wanting to put up this blog from sometime now…somehow never happened…finally today here it is…
One of my cousins was looking to adopt a daughter. She has a son who is almost 4 years old. She wanted a daughter younger than her son and so was looking out for about 2 year old kid. The adoption process is very painful…..she had to wait for so long as there were no children out there with papers clear for adoption.
Finally she and her husband adopted a 3.5 year old girl. We were all very excited about this. This was a new thing to us. We had so many questions. Will the kid know that she is adopted? How will she adapt herself? How will she accept new parents?
Will she understand?
Finally we got to meet this kid.
My first description was cute. She mixed very easily. It looked as though she knew us from a long time. We took some time to digest her presence…….She was feeling at home.
I have normally described kids as cute, smart, quiet…..but never this way…This kid was adorable….. I really mean it.
I have learnt a lot in those few hours with that kid….
I really have tears in my eyes when I am writing this blog. The kid stole my heart away….
First thing that impresses me was how the kid could just get along immediately.
with so many of us staring at her……
Then there she was speaking in kannada. My cousin wanted her to learn tamil and Malayalam (her husband and her languages). So she kept talking to her in those languages. The little girl managed to grasp every point.
Then, she was so independent for her age. Must be because of her upbringing till date. She did not want anyone to help her comb her hair, feed her food. It seems she dint allow anyone to give her a bath. She does everything herself.
She was so clean and neat at eating. I was amazed again. Amma asked her if she wanted more fruit salad. She refused. But after
sometime she was looking at her mom…..i realized she wanted more.
She was so cultured….it was too much for her age. She listened to her mom’s words as soon as told. But she was not this dormant kid. She fought with her brother…she played with him…she danced and sang…she was talkative enough.
The more amazing stuff of this was yet to come…My sis had got a doll for her from Netherlands….it somehow happened so that she took the doll in her hand and her brother saw it. It was a really cute white tiger fur toy. Anyone would love it…including
me. That little boy said he wanted it and took it from her.
I was staring at my sis for getting just one doll…..
U wont guess what happened…
My cousin took the two mangoes and coconut that my mom gave and put
it in a bag. She told the little girl…"you keep this…let him have the
doll"……………I tell u seriously…even at this age…I would frown………maybe even hesitate
that little girl…..graciously gave the doll to her brother. Told him…"you keep it ok. I will keep these fruits.lets go home"….I was dumb struck….loving and giving…all that I have heard…but a girl 3.5 years of age….it was a little too much for me to digest.
I loved that kid. I hope she does not change at all. She stays the same way…independent…loving and giving…and always smiling and bubbly the way she is now. God bless her with all happiness.
Tags: Family
October 20th, 2008 at 11:37 am
Actually, I am scared that this child is SO used to giving up things that she has made a habit of it….I just hope that this indeed her nature and not something forced on her by her earlier circumstances…
My eyes are moist, too.
October 21st, 2008 at 5:12 am
OMG
i hope it all goes well with the adoption!
October 21st, 2008 at 5:12 am
?
Is it hard to adopt a child in India?
October 21st, 2008 at 6:56 am
Re: ?
I have not done it myself so I am not sure of the exact details…
But what I know is…it is a tedious process…
what i know is…
There are so many children there….but there are so many processes…etc etc…
the children must be clear of all legal issues for them to be ready for adoption…the organizations (like orphanages) dont keep these things ready. This must be done and this is lengthy process again…
and then signing lots of papers etc..
All this makes it very time consuming and complicated…