It starts like this…

I was due for delivering a baby and so was at my mom’s place. We had a maid working for 10 years in our house. My mom had hinted to her that the arrival of the baby would kind of hike her salary and also she might get some goodies. Despite this fact, she decided to switch jobs on the day after I delivered. She got an opportunity is some company that paid her about Rs 500 more and so she wanted to switch. My mom asked her to stay atleast for a few days till we could settle down with the baby at home and find a new maid. But sorry….no notice period….my mom had to run around doing all house work and managing my new born as I had a C section and needed extra help. It was pathetic to see her.

She found it very difficult and so went back to our maid and asked her if she had any plans of returning. The courtesy that she was shown was that she should wait till this lady decides what to do…my mom dint bother about self respect at this point…she asked the lady if she could come over any time of the day to atleast help out in a few things…”NO” was the answer. “Could you help me find some other maid”…”I am not sure anyone is free right now”…”Would you come if I give more money?”…”I have to think…”…this was the dialog…..The only changed thing was that now she was making more money and did not need us… This was a lady who used to get gifts in silver from my mom for diwali…but of course…she expected gold. I don’t know any place where they give bonuses and gifts that double or triple their salary…atleast I don’t…

Then started a maid hunt….we had 3 different maids coming and going off without giving any reasons within 2 weeks. So we started analyze the situation and slowly came up with lot of points…of which most of them blamed my mom…

1. Not enough money given
2. More food to be given
3. Gifts to be given
4. Bonuses to be given
5. Leaves not to be questioned
6. Not to complain too much about the quality of work

My mom felt that the maids had not even stayed back for enough time to receive a gift or a bonus…and quality of work had to be questioned when it was being paid for. However, she gave into our feedback…

Compromises that mom made

1. Do not question the timing of a maid
2. Wait for the next immediate festival to give first gift
3. Any small extra bit of work would be duely paid
4. Do not question any absence
5. Never question the quality of work
6. Almost double the salary
7. Reduce total number of work items (do the rest herself)

Breakfast and coffee/tea (as per their preference) and giving any old sarees and clothes was already being done. But she agreed to do more…

I must say that she really did all this….if anyone knows my mom…they would know how difficult this would have been for her. She was being so hard on herself just to make sure that she had some one who could physically help her in doing some work in the house.

After all this, she still had maids coming in for a week and then never turning up without notice and reasons. They would come back after another week and say that they wanted the money for the one week’s work that they had done. Some even asked for extra amounts. one lady threw the coffee offered into the drain in front of my mom saying that it tasted bad(my mom makes coffee for all of us together….so that’s our daily coffee…the lady had all rights to say she dint want it….that was the worst behavior I have ever seen). This happened with 8 different people…

There were even weird instances where….one lady who used to come at 8 in the morning everyday suddenly turns up in the afternoon. Reason given is that….in the other house their kids have holidays and so the would prefer that she does work there first. My mom had to ask her…”it is very difficult for me if you keep changing timings like this. Tomorrow when the kids go back to school you will be back at 8….we also pay u and they too…so why is it that you can be flexible for them and not me”….the lady is angry and so does not turn up after that. She not only does not turn up….but goes around telling people that my mom is not flexible enough and so working with her is very difficult.

Another funny thing….they would join work in the mid of the month.lets say they want 1K as salary….they expect that 1K is paid to them irrespective of date of joining.they act as though they cannot calculate…but the same people while working in garments factory can calculate their salary on an hourly basis and claim OT(over time) money. If we don’t pay the full amount….my mom will be bad mouthed that she cuts the money for leaves and so she is not a good woman

I started comparing this with employment that I am in. we too change jobs and stick to our relieving dates…..but then… very rarely I see people not being ethical in behavior…

1. KT is given
2. Many times interviews are conducted to make sure another candidate is on board
3. Notice periods exist
4. If we serve in a company for a few days and leave without informing the company…I don’t think the company will  credit salary
5. Unless we are leaving because we have differences with our bosses we don’t behave badly
6. We never get bonuses if we don’t work for a full year
7. Gifts and bonuses and hikes are given after we are judged for a full year’s performance. Not if I have joined just 1 week before.

So in no way I could explain to my mom that these ladies were ethical in their behavior. What is their expectation? They expect that we call them, gift them some sarees and gold on the first day, then give them some food and sweets, and then give them their salary and don’t expect that they come and do any work?

Did they think we run charity?

They know that my mom is desperate. They are using her situation and they feel she is at their mercy.

My mom ended up doing all the house work herself, cooking, taking care of my little one…after all that she did not get time to actually sit and relax and play with her grand daughter which was very sad.

I am now trying to figure out a way in which all the required work can be done with much less effort and hence my mom would never require a maid.

It is 5 months now and I have not been able to come up with a solution for this problem. But I am positive that I will come up with something…I just hope I don’t take too long and my mom still gets time to play with her little grand daughter before my daughter  grows old enough to play with her friends and not with her grandma….

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Even the mothers need training. no one is born a mother. Breast feeding also is something that needs to be taught and there is nothing wrong in it. Small tips of what to do when the baby cries or if there is gas accumulation or how to burp the baby…..all these are important things.

Also, delivery in itself is very exhausting  for a woman. Most of them fall into slight depressions after delivery.This could be eased and the woman could be made to feel better if she taught many of the things before her delivery when she is killing time waiting for the baby. If a woman is taught and then counseled about how to breast feed and what are the uses and what can be done if does not work well, then atleast she does not end up spending all her time and energy figuring out how to get it right adding to her depression.

In India, historically, most people were in joint families and each set of parents had a huge set of children. so someone or the other in the family would know what to do and how to do things when a new little one arrives at home. So these classes were not required. However, over time we have now moved into the nuclear family system. There a lot of couples who need to manage a delivery all by themselves for various reasons. Would’nt these classes help? I am sure they would.

“Bathing a kid and changing nappies is a woman’s job” is no more applicable. Most couples are working and they need to mangae the kid taking turns.

By the time the mom learns to breast feed correctly and the dad learns to carry and put his kid to sleep, the kid is a few months older and the precious moments of admiring the kid in the first few months are lost in learning “the obvious”.

Hope someone tries to bring this culture also to India

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I was trying to analyze why is it that I don’t like the Indian serials…”THE” mega serials…

First…I don’t see good acting. The hindi serials are still better. The south Indian serials are not even that good. Very few of the actors really do acting. The worst are the child actors…it is like saying…”you are child…so we can accept anything you do”…
The child actor talent I would say needs great improvement not only in serials but also in movies. We try to copy a lot of things from Hollywood…I think this is another important thing that needs to be looked at.
The older actors too are not great in serials. The actors who have come from cinema into the smaller screen do some amount of acting. The main characters around them manage some level of acting. Any smaller characters, one time actors are all people who just spit out some words and walk away. The dialogues they are asked to speak out are sometimes way too much for what a child of their age would say. They suddenly turn into adults at some points which somehow does ot go with what the serial wants to depict…(if they really want to depict something at all).
If you need to make a quality serial…every single character must act well….the directors should understand this. The serials must be a platform to bring upcoming actors…

Second….There is NO story. The serials are produced based on an initial thought of someone. The story can spin in and out in any way. Many times it is completely senseless which makes one end up thinking…”why would someone do it this way when there is such an obvious other way?”…answer…only this stupid way would make the serial extend for so many more days.
The serial must have a story that must run for so many days…not make one scene so complicated and stupid that it will make sure the serial will run for long.

Third….ALL mega serials somehow characterize women as super powers who undergo immense torture but stand out after all that. I don’t deny the fact that the mega serials are watched by women and hey like to know that they can endure any kind of torture…but come on…there are enough and more of such serials…stop picturing mother in law and daughter in law as enemies. The world has changed. Try to make the serials more enjoyable.
The lady character who endures all the hardships is also always subdued and crying. Suddenly one day she raises and becomes all powerful and daring….but still she is always seen crying. She makes sure that she is an altruist sacrificing everything and not living a happy life. Why should this be so?

Fourth….there is no originality…if you watch one hindi serial…it is equal to have known the story of many. There is only a change in sequence of the scenes….otherwise, the characters and happenings are almost the same. One guy will have a wife but will have an extra marital affair….a women is married to the man who is a gem…but she is in love with someone else. There is a family of daughter in laws and a mother in law who favours one and not all. There is one old lady at home who is either very very nice or she is the worst person one can imagine….I can go on and on …and no one can tell which serial I am talking about. Because all the serials are a stereo type.

Lastly…they are just too long which makes us lose interest. You can manage to catch up with a series even after a month..nothing would have changed. If you have such a long serial…one must have something that makes everyone watch, which is lacking in our serials.
When such long serials are produced and they are played every day…the outcome is…no attention to details…like smaller actors…acting of the actors…the story itself…any unnecessary twists in story…many more things

All the serials that I mentioned in the beginning are very different. These are the ones played on star world…each episode is different and entertaining. There might be some boring episodes. But the director is coming up with something new and different every week. Why don’t our guys think out of the box. Our audience should also realize what quality serial is….

I would prefer to watch programs other than serials….which have at least a little better quality. In that case I would appreciate the star network. They conducted the super singer programs….made stars out of little people and not only did they win competitions…but made it to play back singing….I also saw that in the recent stage show on Vijay TV… they had these little stars perform on the stage instead of having film stars dancing and singing…that is something….bringing out talent from ordinary people.

Hope our small screen also improves with quality programs and gives a platform for budding actors to show their performance.

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This theory I very strictly follow especiallywhen the stuff i am buying is going to cost me a few thousands of bucks…and so that is true for my mobile.

I first had a reliance mobile and then I had to buy an instrument from them. I bought not a very fancy one…but just one that would look decent enough…no funky colours.
Then I had to switch to airtel and was left with no choice but to buy a new instrument due to technology change.

I bought a very simple mobile for about 3K…the reason was not the money…but itwas that I would not use any features on the mobile. I am not a very big fan of clicking pics on the mobile or listening to mp3 or any other such stuff. All that I do on my mobile is tomake calls, send sms, put in some reminders, set an alarm and use the calculator. if I have to go further and stretch my use….I play a game one in a while and TRY to listen to the radio
So i got a mobile that offered me these features

Everyone at home cursed me for buying such a “stupid” mobile. They felt I was being a miser. I tried to explain that it really did not concern the price but just what I felt I wanted. It was surprising that nobody would believe that someone in IT could just like that buy a simple mobile. I dint bother.

of late…the mic in mobile was damaged. I still dint want to go for a new mobile…just because I was not intereszted. I decided to use my hubby’s old mobile which was the Nokia Sports model….supposedly one funky mobile…but still people were not happy…be it friend…family…everyone still felt I was not using the latest mobile. I used the sports mobile for 3 months and proved to myself and everyone that I really dont use any other features…after which the back cover of the mobile broke.

I went to get a new mobile for myself. there were 100s of suggestions….I was told I must buy the latest pone…some of them were happy that my mobile broke so that I would finally get a new one. I found it o strange that me not having a latest mobile model was bothering so many people….that too this was by choice…
Even after I got a new mobile (which again I did not want to spend too much on for unnecessary features)… I am still geting comments that I should have bought a better mobile. Now I understand one thing… If i would say that my moile costed 30000 bucks… I guess everyone would have said WOW….

I have another very important reason for not buying gadgets that I dont see the use….I dont buy stuff as I feel I am bringing non-biodegradable waste into the world. I would like to minimize my usageof such stuff. There are times when I cannot avoid using stuff….like I use dypers for my baby…I know that there is a lot of non-biodegradable stuff in it…but that is a necessity for me and so I cant avoid it.But this, of course Idont need to buy something if I dont see the use.
I do not force this thought on others….but I follow itas much as I can..I may be a weirdo…but thats what is my opinion…

I really dont care who understands this… I will continue to be this way!!

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I have a lot of opinions of my own about ethics that one must follow…especially in a work environment… I have been very strict in not taking undue advantage of previleges given to me at my company….or…speaking up frankly in meetings….saying ‘NO’ when i think it is required. I have been adviced against doing so….the reason being… I might not be a favourite of the top management if I follow my principles…Somehow I always felt I was right…

I just finised reading Suboto Bagchi’s ‘The professional’. This book has reassured me that I am on the right path to becoming a professional and I am not wrong in following my own value system and my own priciples. I am feeling extremely elated as this is not said by just someone…but by a amn with a lot of experience in the professional world.
His writing about integrity…. I just totally agree and proud that I follow it absolutely.

Not just that….there are a lot of things in the book that either I follow …or strive to follow….

I am not vouching that everything written in the book is the right thing…but I agree with it and it makes me feel great that I have a mind which is thinking in similar terms as a person like Subroto.
I do not have a goal to become an entrepreneur…that does not stop me from being a professional with what I do…and whatever I aspire to do.

Thanks Mr.Subroto…you have made my day and now I am more focussed without doubts…..

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Another observation that i made was…one must be confident of his performance…only then can one display that kind of enthuse….the lack of confidence will give away and thee will be no charm.

I was watching a carnatic kutcheri the other day…….and i observed that this kind of enthusiasm is not expressed much. People just seem so serious…they dont seem to enjoy and involve in their singing. Mostly instrument players seem to be more enthusiastic about the performance than vocal singers.
Another subtle notice that i took was…men seemed to be more enthusiastic when they sing than women…..
These observations are very personal and sont mean to demean anyone….it is just what I observed…

The other day I was surfing for some songs… I found a you tube of Aruna sairam ….
She is one lady who expresses enthusiasm when she sings and I dont see why it is wrong. but i saw that there were a lot of comments that talked about her mannerisms and how they did not depict the bhakthi bhava….
come on….when she is singing a playful Krishna’s song…..that is the kind of bhakthi…..I dint find anything wrong. In fact, I felt her spirirts actually gave the song life and made us imagine the actual scenes in our mind.

I always feel that art forms should have enthusiasm attached….otherwise it becomes like a regular routine and you stop enjoying it. You must become one with the art and enjoy the moments that you get….it is to be savoured…
Let go for once….and then you will know what ecstacy or bliss is….

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I dont want to make any detailed statements…there is no scientific evidence to what I say….I have a little personal experience and some people whom I have met recently from which I conclude whatever I am saying….and I am quite satisfied wtih my research (atleast …it works for me)…

Depression I have found is very common and can occur very easily. but one can beat it if one is busy doing stuff that keeps the mind engaged. idle mind is the devil’s workshop. the devil’s workshop also medles with the mind to put depression in….so if you are not idle…then there is not much place for depression. sad or disturbing thoughts still cross…but there is not much time for it to catch momentum.
this is even better handled if you go out…that is to meet people…to work…whether u like your job oor not… you are busy doing something…meeting peole…talking to them….so there is a let out channel for atleast some part of you. The lesser you talk, the more prone to depression you are.

Depression does not set in even if you are burning yourself out with work….and here… there is a clear differentiation between stress and depression….relaxing will get u out of stress…but not depression..thats why depression is dangerous.

If anyone listens to (or reads) “Dont sweat the small stuff…and its all small stuff)…there the author talks about snow balling of thoughts and how you should not let your sad or bad thoughts gather momentum….I totally agree. But to not let it gather momentum is not very easy for an average person who has no people to talk to and not much to do.

This is why it is easy for old people at home, house wives, bed ridden people….to get depressed….
It is not their fault…..but unfortunately a depressed person is never handled well by people around. People around start treating them as though they are nags….and this make the depressed person feel even worse..

It is easier said than done…but if I was the one who is depressed… I would not wait for help… I would do all that I can to gte myself out of the state so that it helps me of course…but also makes people around me feel better and hence react better to me and hence makes the whole situation better.

the simplest things I can think of is….
1. if you have access to a comp and the net (that is a previlege…) one can try blogging. this is the best way to talk and express feelings without having to actually meet people. try private blogs or public…the way you want it
2. Email friends
3. If no access to blogs…take a diary and write
4. Use the post… write letters to friends… I am sure they will be surprised.
5. Sing…
6. If u have the previlege to use ipod or something similar…use the time to learn…a song maybe…or some new language…or listen to motivationl talks…orjust comedy tracks
7. Read books…magazines, novels, study materials
8. if you have the materials and can sit up….knit, embroider, pick up any other new easy hobby
9. very important…try something different in the middle of routine tasks…routine tasks make you do stuff without needing to use ur mind too much…again ur mind becomes idle in such cases and u tend to start thinking of unwanted stuff when u r actually doing work. If you have short bursts of non routine stuff in the middle (plan for it)…it will help

These are some things that can come to my mind….but I feel that there are 1000 other such things that one can do…

Just 1 warning tho….dont expect to be appreciated for your efforts….remember that no one else is really worried about you being depressed and so will not really appreciate your effort…..dont get back into depression for lack of appreciation

Depression needs tos be beaten by oneself……and it is not very difficult…juat a little effort can do a lot!!

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Why?…dont we want out second child to also be strong and healthy…???

No one knows why they are doing something….and so they do it as someone else does and so on…. 

Maybe doing a full fledged seemandham for more than once costs a lot and etc etc….but if one really cares about the second baby….they should do at least the major parts… 

The udaga shanthi matram is available as cd. We can buy is and play it….the sound of this what makes the baby’s mind strong….

We really don’t need to invite 100 guests and have a pompous ceremony for this…we can still make sure that we give our best to the second child also….

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The religious rituals have been followed through for centuries….are we trying to say that we are the only intelligent people and that everyone else have been fools. No one ever thought about why something was done?
I don’t think that is true. 

I am not saying that all that is done is right and we must blindly believe it. I am just saying that we must not just take the easy route and say its all stupid…. Instead try to find out what could have been the reason for the origin of such a ritual. 

Of course….it so happens that….when these rituals were handed down from generation to generation…people made their own changes to them according to their conveniences and so the resultant that we have today is a real corrupted version of the original.

But we are no better. We are doing the same thing….not trying to find out how things should be done right and why were they done…. 

If we are told to do something because it brings in good…..we ask it to be proven…..and then we mock the person who is unable to prove it.
My question….”can one anytime prove that not following the rituals is the right thing to do?”….No….there are certain things that cannot be explicitly proven….

Also….many things have been proven much earlier….

Theory of relativity was proven by scientists….i know it is true and right…. I may not be able to derive the mathematical formulae for it…just because I don’t know how to prove it…theory of relativity will not become wrong. 

In fact….as I have tried to do some research (not very extensive though)… what I see is that most of the rituals seem to have had a lot of significance and mostly very scientific. 

I have decided that I will not simply discard anything just because I don’t know what the real reasons are…..of course….I will not be a blind believer…

When my future generation asks me “WHY”… I want to be able to answer atleast 50% of them…. Unfortunately I don’t have enough people who can answer my questions….

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I always think how I can contribute to make this world a better place. I don’t want to do big things…. I try to do small day to day stuff that would help. There are a lot of things that I feel people can do to make this world a better place. But if I tell people ….it is never taken. So I have always believed that one must lead by example.

The first thing that we started off really early was not throwing dirt on the roads. When we went for picnics we carried our own dustbin bags. We dint let our parents or friends throw chocolate wraps on the streets….by we I mean me and my sis.
Next we took up non usage of plastic covers. We forced parents to carry bags with them when they went to shopping. We sometimes carried stuff in our palms when we forgot to take bags…..we are still not 100% there….we could still improve…
It is not really difficult to do these things. It is just a matter of getting used to. Calcutta has a strict ule of no plastic bags…..aren’t people living there. Aren’t they following? That too in our own country with similar culture so that comparison makes sense to everyone….

Let me start with aspects that made me do this loud thinking…it was not just one trigger….it was accumulated frustration

The other day I was in a big saree shop which gave me one cover for the saree, one for the kumkum and all that put into a big cloth bag. I told the shop owner (while returning the plastic bag)that he should avoid plastic and must give stuff only in the cloth bag which he was giving anyways…..he said “we tried that….but people in bangalore frown. They don’t like to take one cloth bags…so…”
I was amazed….and ashamed. Bangalore is such a city which has a high educated population (or I would call it literate)…..the people who could afford sarees in that shop I am sure are having schooling and college background…..and these people don’t like cloth bags…they prefer plastic. That’s the level of education that our systems impart
This is one aspect…..

We were on our way to office and there was this water tanker parked right in the middle of the road. We could not get through. We honked…asked people about the driver of the lorry….most people sat there even without answering…
After 2 to 3 mins we got to know that one of those people who were sitting without answering was the driver. We asked him to move the vehicle. …
He was a man of maybe 5ft….thinner than a stick…he comes up….tries to push the heavy tanker (which he obviously could not)…and then looks at us…and just shrugs and goes away….
After all this drama…we had to reverse and take some other funny road to the office.
That irresponsible guy got away so easily……that was the most irresponsible behavior one could have….but he got away fine…
This added to our frustration….

We have these very nice neighbours….who daily sweep up their house and throw all the dust right in front of the house. We stay opposite to them and so that makes it front of our house also. Ours is the last house on the row and the road ends there with a huge wall. So they also take the pleasure of using the road end as a dump yard. wheels, beds, sheets, clothes…name it and you will find it there. One day I saw then throw dust and told them in a nice manner that maybe they could put all the dust in a container and leave it for the dirt picking van to take it. They nodded. But then they just continued with what they did. This made us a little aggressive. So we went and told them that they should not be dirtying the place like this….you know what they said ?? “ this is the road. It is for the public. We can do anything here. You have no rights to question us. We are not doing anything inside your house. So, mind your own business”.
That is when we started noticing…that most people in the area were throwing dirt right onto the road…and I still don’t understand how one can throw the dirt in front of one’s own house
There is one lady here who washes clothes right next to this dirt thrown…. I still have a question due… I want to ask her if she is fulfilling a formality by washing those clothes as she is spending so much of effort and doing nothing but gathering not only dirt…but the germs that have developed due to the dirt being accumulated for a long time.
This is surprising and saddening……

I have friends who ridicule the fact that we should put off computers in office before going home……ridicule the fact that I wanted to use an electric vehicle just to be non polluting….ridicule the fact that many of them don’t take print outs to save paper…ridicule the fact that using hand kerchief instead of tissues is a good way to save paper….ridicule non usage of plastics….ridicule when I say don’t throw that paper on the street….and do it on purpose so that I get irritated……and all these people are educated ….very well educated……working in IT….
These are the same people who would go to Germany and not throw a single paper on the street….who would admire the Germans coming to office in Bicycles (included highly ranked people in the company)….who praise the fact that germany has separate dustbins for different kinds of garbage…..who are part of sustainability projects…
I say India is so bad today….and 50% of the fault is of these kind of people…. They are directly responsible for this.
This troubles me most as I see the highly educated like this….and if this is the way education turns us….then even God cannot help…..

I always that that China is much more populated than India…but they are able to achieve so much….why ant we. I always felt that education was the problem. We have a high percentage of uneducated population. But if this is what education does to us….then there is no point investing there….
Then we must go back and change the education system. Children must be taught from young age about environmental friendliness. They must be taught how they can help the country….this is more important than history and geography….
But no…most parents will sue such schools….because this will make children rebel at home (because most parents love to take plastic bags…go to big shopping malls…..buy the biggest car with lowest fuel efficiency….I can go on…)
Parents want children to go to school and learn to swim,dance, sing…..but no one wants children to be better human beings. …and if I say I want my child to be a better human being….then my child will lose out in the race….survival of the fittest works here too….so I am scared. I also will follow the mass….this is how our education system is…
If a school says I will make your child the best human being…pay me a fee of 50 thousand Rs a year…and if another school says I will turn your child into a little champ by teaching all these extracurricular activities….then most parents these days don’t even bother to ask how much would u charge… The school that said about the child being a human being would just get phased out. That’s the education today…

Today we are not even supposed to question children at school….if a child does not study well the teacher has no rights to ask why….because the children it seems are being burdened…. I still don’t know with what?…I feel it is trying to teach the child every single extracurricular activity….come on…not every child can be a champ in singing, dancing, swimming karate,yoga,reading…..so many more. It is the parents and the system that is putting the pressure. But we don’t let the teachers do their job. If you don’t question a child for anything…then you might as well not send the child to school….why waste the money…
We have a tracking system called appraisals even at this age in office…but schools say no more exams…..don’t people understand that you are just passing the bug…the schools come out safe. But once the child is into the world….competition is going to be three. If the child has never ever experienced it how will it survive….
These days suicide is another very easy thing….”12 year od commits suicide”… I don’t know if I knew how to spell that word then at that age….this is our education…it now teaches how to suicide at a much younger age…

Children should start learning pure sciences…all in practical ways. They should have subjects…but should start specializing from a very early age…..today’s attraction is only In BE because that’s the way to get into IT…why IT…because it pays the most..I am in IT too… but I say…reduce salaries there….pay high in pure sciences….encourage research on natural sources of energy…monitor how it comes….who will do all this…?
Government should do it….but no…they are busy….eating up money…having slippers thrown at them….sleeping on the roads doing dharna….sending people around to burn down buses…..
And all this they do in whose money? Mine and yours…..

It is the middle class ultimately who is the loser….and the pinch is felt by those who have a lot of commitments on their money.
I may earn a certain amount…but I have no responsibility…s o I don’t care what money goes as tax….
But when I have a lot of responsibilities… I now care….

The lower earning people don’t pay tax….but they too enjoy our roads and infrastructure (no offenses….just stating fact…)…. There are lot of wealthy people in business…in politics and various other professions… who do not pay tax (no offenses against anyone in particular)…or do not pay the right amount of tax…
It is employed class who pays tax correctly….and at the end of the day does not get much from the government….and what do we do?? Crib…..
There are many rich people who are responsible… I know many of my dad’s friends who actually put their money to good use like running juvenile homes(let me tell u….its not an easy job)…
a better famous example would be Infosys giving its employees the facility where they can do social work for a year and also be paid salary during that time…..
These are examples to follow…..

I would rather pay my tax as salary to a person who goes to a village….teaches people better farming…scientific methods…(need not be an agricultural engg…people can be trained for anything)….give this guy all facilities in the village and also got settlement for his family and make him feel like he is onsite…. I am sure there would be many people who would like to go at least if the money is good.
Encourage people to stay in villages and not go out. Make them get better output of their farming…..do it like a project in the office. The appraisal would be based on the outputs produced….
Use project management skills….
Make it such that every year we reduce our import of food grains and other stuff…our economy will automatically improve

Get people to study pure sciences…get people who are civil engineers to come up with a beautiful plan to solve the water crisis by building right type of dams and canals. Get people to study and find out how they can solve the long standing Cauvery issue….
Give them good perks….

Get private companies to do policing…

Start small. Do it in one part of pone town. Say if anyone threw paper on the street he pays 50 rs fine….and if he is caught more than twice…then he needs to go to the police station….have private companies do this…pay the people who are policing very high…

It won’t work…I’ll tell u why…there will be there rich sons of rich fathers who would come down and make mischief and get into gunda fights if they were fined…so people will be scared….

So….many people felt…best way to get out of this nonsense is to go and settle abroad…they did so…and they never came back…

It is no brain drain….it is frustration drain.
I don’t justify that people who go away are doing the right thing….
But me being here….trying a lot… I am not able to do anything….so I feel like getting away too!!

This is not the end of the things that I think about….but this is all I could get into words. I always try thinking how I can help here and how I can fit in….to be honest… I end up feeling helpless most of the time.

I know I can go and give a police complaint about my neighbours…and can do a lot of similar stuff…but let me tell you… I am an average person. I am scared. I am no hero… I am scared that I will get into gundaism… I am scared people will follow me… I am scared… so I will not do that.
I want to do things and change the world like Gandhi…non-violence…but that does not really work so well …..because then I have to face a jallianwala bagh…which I cannot do… I am scared
I feel bad and helpless…..about my situation and about myself….

What I try to do is….still do the little things that I can….and try to pen down these kind of thoughts so that it might kindle similar emotions in someone who might read it and maybe they also try to make small changes…..and I hope that in time…things will fall in place.
I love my country….and I have a vision for it…..I don’t know if I will see it that way even if I am born more than once….

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